A dad warned his adult daughter that she must be careful if she doesn’t want to get pregnant and talked with her about what responsibilities a child puts on one’s shoulders. When he found out she still got pregnant and was looking for a place to stay, he refused to take her in because he was done raising babies. Read full story below...
My daughter is 23(I'm dad btw).
A few years ago my wife(not her mom) took her to get a birth control implant, and she was always happy on it.
A few years ago my wife(not her mom) took her to get a birth control implant, and she was always happy on it.
Fast forward about a year and she meets a guy(he's 28) online and "falls in love". He lives in another state.
She quickly started talking about how they both want to get married and both want kid.
About 3 months before her trip to meet him in person she told me she had gotten her implant out and switched to the pill because she didn't like the implant any more. This kind of raised my eyebrow. She had always talked about loving the implant because she no longer had periods.
So I talk to her, we go over how important it is to take the pill properly every day, and we talk about other bc options, she is set in the pill. I also went over the cost of children and the amount of work and responsibility babies are with her.
Part of my concern here is that her mother openly admits she stopped taking her pills and intentionally got pregnant so I would marry her(I did, and we are divorced now).
I also told her that I love my kids and raising them, but I had no interest in raising theirs. I am enjoying retirement. (I have a 10 and an 8 yo with my wife).
I also told her that I love my kids and raising them, but I had no interest in raising theirs. I am enjoying retirement. (I have a 10 and an 8 yo with my wife).
Well, lo and behold, she gets pregnant on her trip. BF is not financially stable and is in another state, and due to morning sickness she has been missing a lot of work.
She is intent on keeping the baby.
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She called last night and asked if she and her bf could come live with me so he could move here and find a job(he doesn't have any significant work history or education, and is morbidly obese which cause him a lot of health problems, so currently he is on disability), and they would save up money and be out before the baby is born. Also note her mom does not have room at her house.
She is intent on keeping the baby.
Image credits: Ernesto Andrade.She called last night and asked if she and her bf could come live with me so he could move here and find a job(he doesn't have any significant work history or education, and is morbidly obese which cause him a lot of health problems, so currently he is on disability), and they would save up money and be out before the baby is born. Also note her mom does not have room at her house.
I said no. My daughter has a history of not following through on her commitments and I know that she won't actually move out before she has the baby, and probably not for a long while after. She has trouble taking responsibility for herself and I am guessing we will be the ones dealing with the baby mostly. We currently have a cat she adopted and then didn't want because she wouldn't clean its box so it went to the bathroom everywhere.
On top of that, I don't want this man that I don't know and she barely knows in my home with my small children.
On top of that, I don't want this man that I don't know and she barely knows in my home with my small children.
So now he is flying up so they can find a place together(she currently rents a room in a party house). I told her I would help her with the deposit and first month's rent but of they wanted to play house I wasn't going to fund it, so don't expect me to pay when they can't.
Now she is upset with me, her mom has chewed me up one side and down the other for not supporting her.
AITA?
Now she is upset with me, her mom has chewed me up one side and down the other for not supporting her.
AITA?
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